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Stop Being so Hard on yourself!

Hey baby, stop being so hard on yourself! You are beginning to sound like you wish this would have never happened! You have to understand she is growing and this part of her life she is going to be most fussy! But with time it will get better I promise! And you should be glad you are breastfeeding because it is the most healthy thing for your baby! After the fussy stage is over and she is doing a lot better then you will look back on this as the best experience you have ever had, and you will want to do it again someday.Keep in mind, when E grows up and moves away you will miss hearing her cry and being able to hold her when you want to. So do yourself a favor and enjoy it while you can because it doesnt last long!! She is already over a month old and yet it seems like only a few days! I love ya baby and you doing a great job!


Warren

P.S. You worry about being a mommy :-P Not about getting a job!

Wonderful Mother

Jeanette,
You should not say that you are not a WONDERFUL mother becauser you ARE THE MOST WONDERFUL MOTHER. I know it feels really hard right now but remember not only are you managing a newborn, it has only been a lil over a month and it will take some time before your hormones get back to normal. I read your post and I had to respond, not only because I think you are such a WONDERFUL mother, but there was another reason as well. While I was reading the part "All I know is that if I had known this is how it was gonna be I would never have gotten pregnant in the first place." I sat and thought a moment and my eyes filled with tears. Not because of what you said so much as the thoughts that went through my mind when I read it I actually STOPPED and thought about how VERY VERY much I LONG to go back in time if only for one day and hear Warren,Melissa,Shannon and Shawn lying there crying so I could "try" and figure out what was wrong. I know that must sound silly to you but I truly wish that were possible for me. You know, I would NEVER probly figure out EXACTLY why they were crying.....sometimes they cry....just to cry :-) But I was always looking for that "reason" even though there may not have neccesarily been one. Ya know it seems really bad when they cry and they cant tell you what hurts. It is REALLY hard as they grow older and go through things in life and THEN they cry and CAN tell you what is wrong but there is nothing you can do to "fix" it, THAT is extremely frustrating. Then there are times when they will cry when they are older and WONT tell you whats wrong, I think those cries are the worse, cuz you dont know if you can help or not. Anyway, I just want you to know that if ever there was a wonderful mother you are it. You do a fine job though I know that you dont feel like it.(I got that impression through your post) Everyone says how wonderful a mother you are. Try to(if possible)enjoy some of that crying(I know you cant enjoy all of it)but try because one day you will, as I do, long to go back to this place in time that seems so hard right now. It will pass as you will see. I will end in saying keep up the good work and I am always here for you whenever you need me. Love you bunches. Kim(Mom)

P.S.

Almost forgot, if you are TRULY feeling super bad, it might not be a bad idea to talk to your doctor about it. Could be post-pardom depression, couldnt hurt to mention your feelings to him/her. Love ya, Me again. :-)

Re: Wonderful Mother

Thank you so much. I seem to be tolerating it a lot better now then I was at first. They call it the baby blues I guess. All I know is that I would be laughing one minute and crying uncontrollably the next. Warren got all upset with me cause I didn't know why I was crying. But now I only get upset because I can't figure out what she wants. We've found one thing that seems to have been her major problem-gas. We bought some of those Mylicon infant drops and that has helped A LOT!!! Now when she cries its usually because she needs a diaper change, is hungry or just wants to be held-which is all the time, but sometimes she's okay by herself. I've noticed after giving her those drops that she is a lot happier. She'll have her cute moments more often and they will last a lot longer. Before it might only be five minutes, but today she was being really cute for a good half hour and then she fell asleep. Anyway, thank you for the encouraging words. I really appreciate it. I can't believe its been 6 weeks already. Anyway, love ya.
Jeannette

Re: Wonderful Mother

Jeanette,
LOL Yeah I forgot.....that gas WILL have her crying too. I am glad ya'll got the medicine for it. They didnt have that when my kids were babies...except for when Warren was a baby it had just come out and I was afraid to use it cuz it hadnt been out long enuff lol. Turns out it works WONDERS on LOTS of babies. :-) I am sure Elizabeth is having LOTS AND LOTS of cute and precious moments. She is so beautiful. :-) Dont worry about Warren being upset because you couldnt tell him why you were feeling down. I am sure he was ONLY upset because you were upset and he NEEDED to fix you and he couldnt. He so hates to see you sad and/or upset and like a "parent" wants to take care of you and gets frustrated when something happens and he cant. ITS JUST LOVE :-) I hope you got the addresses I sent. Let me know if you need me to drop anyone so your grandpa can invite more ppl. :-) I will if you need me to. Dont take any of yours off. I know you are BUSY WITH EVERYTHING!!!, so I will end for now. Give the baby kisses from "Gammy" and I love you both BUNCHES AND BUNCHES...Kim(Mom)